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G’day everyone,

 

This week we will look further into how to increase your optimism.

 

But before that, let’s recap.

  • We’ve spoken about how to measure your optimism levels.

  • We’ve spoken about the health advantages, the positive effect on personal relationships and the increase in resilience and reduction in depression.

  • Last week, we looked at when optimism is useful and when pessimism is a better choice.

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Your ABCs

Now we’ll look at how to break down how we (usually automatically) explain events to ourself.

 

The model uses ‘ABC’

 

Adversity: The even that we react to by thinking about it

Belief: These thoughts rapidly turn into beliefs. These beliefs may become habitual and we don’t realise we have them (hence the ‘usually automatic’ part).

Consequence: This is the result of these beliefs.

 

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An example given is someone taking your carpark.

 

Adversity: Someone takes your carpark.

Belief: You think that the person is inconsiderate.  You think the person has seen you and decided to take your carpark.

Consequence: You get angry and yell at the driver or beep your horn.

 

Another example given is as follows. But with this example we can see that a different belief can cause a different result.

 

In the book, the beliefs aren’t written but I’ve put in my ‘answer’ instead.

 

Adversity: Your best friend hasn’t returned your phone calls.

Belief: You think that your best friend is deliberately ignoring you and doesn’t need you or doesn’t prioritise your friendship.

Consequence: You feel sad all day.

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This is compared to.

 

Adversity: Your best friend hasn’t returned your phone calls. (Same event).

Belief: You think that your friend must be really busy, or may be away and not have signal, or their phone is not working.

Consequence: You don’t feel bad and go about your day.

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See how your thoughts of the same event can dramatically change how it makes you feel.

 

This week, have a think about events in your life.

  • Write down the event.

  • Write down the thoughts that it causes.

    • This is harder that it sounds. I have found that the ‘ask why’ technique helps with that.

  • Write down your thought. Then ask why. Then write your answer. Then ask why.

    • This isn’t in the book but can be a useful technique.

  • Following this, write down the consequences (how you feel).

 

Pick one event a day.

 

Next week we’ll look at these examples and then look at how to dispute thoughts that aren’t conducive to optimism.

 

Enjoy!

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